Category Archives: Encouragement

Savor the Now: Dog Gone Good Advice for Living in the Present

Ever find yourself speeding through life wondering when you could slow down to savor the here and now? You know, to fully live in the present without a care in the world?

I challenge you to stop in your tracks (just keep reading). šŸ˜‰ Fully engage in a short adventure.

Savor the now.

Please stop and smell the proverbial roses. Itā€™s just plain good to practice this in our life and business in general.

Hope you donā€™t mind, but Iā€™m sharing a personal story to convey some insights. As an outdoor aficionado, when itā€™s sunny I love to lie in the grassā€“ itā€™s how I slow down and soak up the beauty of life. My beloved, Happy, an aging Labrador usually hunts me down and makes my bed of grass even more special. Hereā€™s our selfie to prove it.

Advice for Living in the Present

Recently during a google search of how to best care of my aging furbaby, I came across a website. Something spectacular caught my attention. It was a response to a blog post and this is what Iā€™m so inspired to share with you. I believe it offers oodles of insight.

Friends, this is where the ā€œsavor the nowā€ lesson bubbles to the surface! Please, enjoy.

Wisdom from a six-year-old and his dog

Dr. Paula wrote, ā€œBeing a veterinarian, I had been called to examine a ten-year-old Irish wolfhound named Belker. The dogā€™s owners, Ron, his wife, Lisa, and their little boy, Shane, were all very attached to Belker, and they were hoping for a miracle.

I examined Belker and found he was dying of cancer. I told the family we couldnā€™t do anything for Belker, and offered to perform the euthanasia procedure for the old dog in their home.

As we made arrangements, Ron and Lisa told me they thought it would be good for six-year-old Shane to observe the procedure. They felt as though Shane might learn something from the experience. The next day, I felt the familiar catch in my throat as Belker ā€˜s family surrounded him. Shane seemed so calm, petting the old dog for the last time, that I wondered if he understood what was going on. Within a few minutes, Belker slipped peacefully away.

The little boy seemed to accept Belkerā€™s transition without any difficulty or confusion. We sat together for a while after Belkerā€™s Death, wondering aloud about the sad fact that animal lives are shorter than human lives.ā€ØShane, who had been listening quietly, piped up, ā€I know why.ā€

Startled, we all turned to him. What came out of his mouth next stunned me. Iā€™d never heard a more comforting explanation. It has changed the way I try and live.

He said,ā€People are born so that they can learn how to live a good life ā€” like loving everybody all the time and being nice, right?ā€ The Six-year-old continued,

ā€Well, dogs already know how to do that, so they donā€™t have to stay as long.ā€

Remember, if a dog was the teacher you would learn things like:

When loved ones come home, always run to greet them.

Never pass up the opportunity to go for a joyride.

Allow the experience of fresh air and the wind in your face to be pure Ecstasy.

Take naps.

Stretch before rising.

Run, romp, and play daily.

Thrive on attention and let people touch you.

On warm days, stop to lie on your back on the grass.

On hot days, drink lots of water and lie under a shady tree.

When youā€™re happy, dance around and wag your entire body.

Delight in the simple joy of a long walk.

Be loyal.

If what you want lies buried, dig until you find it.

When someone is having a bad day, be silent, sit close by, and nuzzle them gently.ā€

Source: http://www.thelabradorsite.com/caring-for-an-older-labrador/

Advice to Living in the Present

Iā€™m grateful for you in this present moment.

Thanks for joining me for a bit to savor the now. Itā€™s all we really ever have. Letā€™s be more like that Irish wolfhound providing our loved ones with lessons in living in the present, and fully enjoying life.

When circumstances call, letā€™s remember to avoid biting when a simple growl will do. Oh! And letā€™s go for more joy rides and naps.

Over to you! In the comments below share with us what you like to do to savor the now? Think about it, you may provide us with some of the best advice for enjoying the roses.

6 Tips to Help You be More Lovableā€¦

Seriously?! Did you know 2015 Valentineā€™s Day sales were projected to top out at 18.9 BILLION dollars? That having been said, clearly money canā€™t buy us love or make us more lovable even in the form of chocolates, flowers or fine dining.

6 Tips to Help You be More Lovable

Of course, itā€™s not shameless to ask, ā€œwhy not get our piece of the pie in that 18.9 billion dollar projection and be adorned, pampered, appreciated?ā€ Iā€™m laughing because truly, you and I know this one day serves the retail industry more than it does lovers and friends.

We see the festive messages depicting fancy experiences, telling us how to love and be loved. All the hoopla is over in one stinkinā€™ day! And, I think while it may be good for the economy, it may not be for the stress levels of the ā€œdearly beloved.ā€

In response toĀ Valentineā€™s Day celebrations, Iā€™m offering up six tips to help you be more lovable year round.

No pressure or time crunch necessary.

Thatā€™s right. Iā€™m here to help you be more lovable and it may not be what you think. Sit down a while and forget about wearing sexy, silky pjā€™sā€“ though that canā€™t be a bad thing either.

Turn your attention on what can be more than a flash in the pan, and definitely more self-honoring. Focus on being that deeply centered person you are. Consider filling yourself up with what makes you happier, healthier and well, more lovable.

1- Envision whatā€™s good.

Weā€™ve been in the presence of a ā€œDebbie Downerā€. It ainā€™t pretty! In fact, itā€™s down right draining. As we envision whatā€™s good, what can go right, whatā€™s positive in our lives, we actually attract less stress. We open a space for those around us to experience what envisioning and expecting good can feel like. We give others and ourselves permission to get more into ā€œpossibility thinkingā€. Itā€™s highly attractive.

6 Tips to Help You be More Lovable

2- Be kind to yourself and others.

Thereā€™s nothing more lovable than seeing someone who makes a mistake, acknowledges it and is then kind to themselves or those around them after the mistake has been made. Hereā€™s an example of that. A while back I was a passenger in a car that was hit by someone who was apparently really exhausted.

This is what resulted from that accident: The person who hit usā€“ got out of the car and asked if we were okay. We were. Then she proceeded to apologize for hitting us, and said, ā€œThe next time when my body is telling me to take a day off from work, Iā€™m going to listen and sleep in. Iā€™m just glad weā€™re all okay.ā€

Wow! Kindness is powerful. Kindness shown when it would be easy to beat ourselves up is even more powerful, especially when the mistake is preventable. So why not be kind in the process? Itā€™s what makes us lovable.

3- Appreciate your efforts.

When was the last time you stopped to simply appreciate all that you do? Sometimes itā€™s easy to get sidetracked from remembering that our efforts arenā€™t always noticeable, but they matter.

6 Tips to Help You be More Lovable

Take inventory of this. Stop and celebrate a little. This is why you are lovable even if we donā€™t all see your efforts. I know you are up to something like paying the billsĀ­ā€“ or caring for a precious beingĀ­ā€“and I appreciate it.

4- Be Honest.

Are you really giving yourself permission to feel lovable? Is it time to refocus on what you need to do to move yourself forward?

In friendships and romantic relationships our expectations arenā€™t for the other to be perfect, our desire is that they be honest. The same is true with our self. When we can address thoughts or actions that are incongruent with our life mission, we step into a place where countless good can happen. Honesty requires courage to acknowledge what weā€™re doing well, but also the things we need to rise up and say, ā€œknock if off, already!!!ā€

5- Take Care of Your Body

In the words of Jim Rohn, ā€œTake care of your body. Itā€™s the only place you have to live in.ā€ In my childhood I really understood the magnitude of these words, I just didnā€™t know how to take care of my body.

On my adventure to become healthier, I discovered that I needed to learn to love and accept myself unconditionally as God does. I realized taking care of my physical being empowers me to love more and to be loved more because Iā€™m more present.

6 Tips to Help You be More Lovable - Enjoy Life

Itā€™s not rocket science. It takes learning and listening to what best supports our unique body. When I see others caring about what they put in their mouths, or enjoying an exercise program, Iā€™m grateful for them. I believe we all respect them for making decisions to show up for their family and those that love them. Itā€™s admirable.

6- Enjoy Life

Psstā€¦ you donā€™t need my permission or anyone elseā€™s to enjoy life. In fact, itā€™s what makes you irresistibly lovable! When we decide to live a life that is satisfying and full, thereā€™s a shift that happens. We tend to repel those who donā€™t want a piece of that joy and we engage those who hunger for it.

ā€œAnd then you laughed and it seemed a thousand joyous songs leapt into the air.ā€ ~Brendon Burchard

Iā€™m for more belly laughs and smiles. Iā€™m not Aristotle, but I think it makes us more lovable. Do what you enjoy. Is it time outside like one of the kids? Is it cooking up some tasty vittles, it is connecting with those who brighten your day? Whatever it is, please do it.

Bonus Tip

Ever felt a bit stuck with feeling lovable? Not knowing where to really start?
6 Tips to Help You be More Lovable

Guess what? You arenā€™t alone. Sometimes itā€™s toxins in our bodies stirred up by bad emotion, food or drugs. Sometimes it can be challenging circumstances.

I want to help you find your true north. Your most lovable self. I want to offer you a chance to be your best.

For the first time ever,Ā  Iā€™m offering a special course through Real School Health. Click here to find out the inside scoop.

You see I believe when we are healthy, happy and fit, we feel more lovable because we feel good about our self. Itā€™s that simple. And when you buy, know this. You are making a difference not only in your well-being but in the lives of others too! Fifty percent from the profits of the sales will go feeding the hungry and rescuing children from human trafficking through one of my favorite charities, Childrenā€™s Hunger Fund.

I hope youā€™ll join the party. If you decide itā€™s not time to punch your dance card, know you are still most lovable.

Now, over to you! Share with us, what makes you feel lovable? Or what you do find lovable in others?

Show Some Adrenal Love; Get Better Sleep

I’m fresh off the plane from a four week trip to five different countries in Asia. The old me would have been completely crashed out. Instead I’ve had some time to think about adrenals, how to get better sleep and horses. And yes, I promise it will all tieĀ together.

Horses are known to be “fight or flight” animals. We humans are no different. Like horses, our “Flintstones roots” can keep us on edge. We may not be fighting off mountain lions and bears, yet we often feel we can come under attack.

Fast forward to now. Our bodies are put through the paces with modern day stresses like demanding schedules, traffic, and finances. Many of us are rushing to put fires out regarding our family or health. All of this signals our adrenal glands to work overtime juggling a variety of stresses.

how to get better sleep: reduce stress

The Adrenal Glands

The adrenal glands are small V/Y shaped structures attached to the top of each kidney and part of our endocrine system. Their responsibility is to release chemicals called hormones into the bloodstream. These hormones affect many parts of our body.

You’ve probably heard about cortisol, estrogen and testosterone. Pay close attention to your adrenals because if you are combating stress, it’s important to take some simple action steps around protecting them; especially the cortisol levels.

Cortisol is needed to equalize stress in the body. It’s the chemical message in our body that says “Run for Cover! Hide in a cave! Go! Go! Go!” However, there’s a hitch, if the release of cortisol is constant due to continuous stressā€“what can result is adrenal fatigue. Fighting fatigue gets many of us reaching for caffeine in the form of sodas or coffee. I’m sure you see the cycle.

how to get better sleep: skip the caffeine

Clearly, being late for an appointment, getting a past due statement reminder, or caring for your loved one can cause stress but it’s not threatening our lives like a hungry mountain lion or bear. Nonetheless, that “fight or flight” tendency causes us to feel like a “Nervous Nellie”. We’re like that herd of horses hoofing it for dear life.

Our reaction to stress tricks and triggers our body into producing more cortisol than it really needs.

It’s a wild-eyed type of energy making us feel we must “run for the hills” to survive. And just when we think we can coast for a bit, what happens? It can be just about anything. It’s the weirdo with road rage, its the outlandish Vet bill you just opened, or a call that your little angel behaved badly. It’s burning dinner as if you’re offering burnt offerings to the Greek gods.

Houston! We’ve got a problem! Chronic stress can wreak havoc on the adrenals to the point of exhaustion.

For some, the overwhelming fatigue has the adrenals refusing to properly provide the energy and resources the body needs throughout the day.

Let’s not be ridiculous. If you are running on empty, knock it off already!
You are more valuable than a thousand mile-long to-do list.

I speak from experience.

Exhaustion, adrenal fatigue/failure is not worth it. Years back, I wanted to be and do it all. I was the opposite of Homer Simpson. I didn’t want to be the Underachiever. I wanted to excel. While I did excel, it cost me and my sweet little adrenals. Hence my proposal.

And of course, I experienced insomnia so what I’m suggesting are tips I’ve personally used and found helpful for better sleeping and showing some R-E-S-P-E-C-T to our adrenal glands.

1: Move your magnificent body.

Get into motion and you will sleep better having done so. I’m not suggesting you take up jousting on the back of a horse. I’m suggesting something like walking 20-40 minutes a day or biking.

how to get better sleep: get moving

2: Be consistent.

Make it a point to hit the hay at the same time every night between 10-10:30pm. Going to bed during these hours will give you prime time restorative sleep.

 

3: Avoid stimulants.

Skip out on caffeine and sugar specifically after 4 PM. Earn a Piggly Wiggly badge by weaning them from your diet to unnecessarily avoid spiking your blood sugar levels.

 

4: Create a restful haven.

Many of my clients report feeling exhausted. I’m not surprised when I find out their sleep environment is more like a bustling train station.

So here’s some ideas. Avoid having animals and older children sleep in bed with you. Pets and kids can sleep well without you. Just do some snuggling before counting sheep. Keep the bedroom cool so you can enjoy a “comatose” state of peaceful sleep. Why not try ear plugs, blackout shades. white noisemakers (like fans or humidifiers)? And, friend, don’t skimp on having a good bed and pillows. We spend a third of our life in bed, so get the best you can afford. While I understand some of this may not fit all of your life stages, do what you can to incorporate what’s possible.

 

5: Dance in the light.

When I first heard about “circadian rhythms” as a high schooler I thought it sounded like a cool band whose music I could dance to. Truth is, our body’s internal clock is sorta helping us get some dance steps down via brain signals. It tells us to sleep in the evening and wake in the morning. Light signals for our brain to be awake. When it becomes dark, our body begins producing melatonin signaling to our brain that it’s time to make our bodies a “snug as a bug in a rug” and sleep tight.

how to get better sleep: circadian rhythms

6: Go easy on the eats

Eating a spicy or large meal prior to bedtime can create a heavy load on our digestive system, making it a challenge to sleep easy . It’s best to eat three hours before bedtime for optimal snoozing.

 

7:Ā Power off

Our body needs indicators that lead it into restorative sleep. This may take some discipline but it’s best to spend our last 30-60 minutes before bed in a calming activity like reading or better yet, sex (but only for the health benefits šŸ˜‰ right?). Power down electronic devices whose light glows from the screens telling the brain to stay awake. If you encounter trouble sleeping, think twice before using electronics before bed or in the middle of the night. The idea is to get your body relaxed and tired not triggered to perform.

 

8:Ā Be comfortable

Whether we sleep in the buff or wear silk p.j.s the point is to be comfortable. The bedroom should be a haven for two things only passionate rest and love. This is where you can decompress and de-stress. From cozy linens to wall colors, create a restful sanctuary. The less clutter there is, the better environment you’ll have for showing adrenal love and cultivating some righteous zzzz’s.

Get better sleep by getting cozy

Chime in! Let me know if you plan to pick up any new practices around sleep or if you have a tip for improving our sleep. Leave it in the comments below to share it with the community.

On Privilege Poverty and Purposeful Profits

Cashed in on some frequent flier miles I’ve been saving for years. Hopped on a plane. First class. Flew over 20+ hours. Enjoyed the amenities. Movies. Slippers. Toothbrushes. Mouthwash. I don’t take this privilege for granted.

In fact, I collect the toothbrushes.

Toothbrushes bring smiles. It’s not just about oral health. It’s about taking sunshine to someone who can’t find one in their neck of the woods or doesn’t have the funds to buy it. It’s humbling.

I’m the traveling entrepreneur. I’ve got a stash of hotel combs, sewing kits, shampoos, lotions, soaps and shower gels from everywhere I go. I must travel light.

I constantly ask myself “what can I bring to show appreciation or open up dialogues with those I meet?” It’s the smallest things that can bring a smile.

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In Myanmar I got a boulder-sized knot in my throat and held back tears as I walked away from a man who told me his story. He and his wife sleep in separate hostels. Their home was in the countryside but the opportunity for work resides in Yangon where they both work 14-15 hours a day. Inflation has made it impossible for them to get ahead. They meet for tea three times a week on a meager $300 USD a month between the two of them. I left them two peppermint tea bags and a small box of chocolates for their next date night. There are times one’s truth is so painful.

The taxi ride to the airport was uncomfortableā€“ and awkwardly comforting as I’m confronted with such privilege. I’m hearing my Mother’s words of wisdom play back from my childhood. It plays over and over.

“To whom much is given, much is required.”

I’m alive and learning. I’m noticing the hundreds of men and women missing limbs in Cambodia. War’s landmines can leave an impression. I asked, Soviat, the Tuk Tuk driver, “how are the Cambodian people doing after the war?” He tells me his mother, at times hears certain noises and still trembles and fears for her life. He shares the metaphor she uses. “I feel I’m the chicken in the coop they are coming to slaughter today.” He shares that it’s a memory that doesn’t release easily.

Far off we turn our attention to songs of redemption. Melodies beckon us as we hike uphill to see a sunset. Bands of limbless, yet lively survivors joined forces with instruments and song. WalkingĀ amongst the vast ruins of Angkor Wat I heard hope. I am encouraged by the sound of the human spirit. Rising. Rising. Stillā€“ going onā€“ somehow. It profoundly touches me.

Behind the eyes of these gentle souls are stories. In the Western world we fling around the acronym, PSTD. In Cambodia there’s littleĀ time for labeling and addressing those deep hurts. To get on with life, you get back to work and make due. It’s survival.

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A day before my husband and I leave, I’m handed a flyer. A beautiful local woman smiles andĀ tells me in English. “Come hear the concertĀ tomorrow night. It’s for a good cause!”

A change agent started this weekly benefit concert. Tourists pretending to be “Tomb Raiders” stop a while and have a chance to contribute. Ā A Swiss doctor not only oversees the expansion of a Children’s Hospital, now complete with Maternity wardā€“ he also plays the strings for contributions so more people can receive medical attention. The stats show that in 23 years over 13 million outpatients and 1.56 million seriously ill children requiring hospitalization were helped. Thank you, Dr. Beat Richner. You inspire. Play on!

I weave in and out of countries. While the purpose is to enjoy different cultures, people, and travel. I set out to search for something deeper. I’ve found in my adventures that looking for the best holiday is like looking for the perfect spouse. There’s unspoken promises of romance- the effects, the adventures, the desire to feel fully alive.

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I’m conjuring up a lasting romanceā€“ the kind that keeps my fire lit long after my travel Visas expire. It’s a romance that fires the flames goingĀ beyond tourist trinkets. It’s a deep craving to leave a contribution in the world.

Tomorrow I set out on the last and most anticipated part of this Southeast Asian journey. I’ll end up in Chiang Mai, Thailand. I’ll be in the good company of fellow social entrepreneurs and my most esteemed heroesā€“ those who serve in the trenches of feeding the hungry and rescuing children from human trafficking.

Friends, I am raw with emotion, but full of anticipation.

I know I live a life of privilege and that my first world problems would be warmly welcomed by most of the people I’ve encountered in Cambodia and Myanmar. I’ve concluded that poverty sucks and that it’s something I need to keep in front of me on an ongoing basis so I continue to push through to reach my full potential and life purpose.

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I’ve decided at this point that 50% of the profits I make will go back to causes like Children’s Hunger Fund. So in February when you see my latest course released know if you decide to buy, you will also be making a contribution to your well-being and that of others. You can find out a little more at www.behealthyhappyfit.com

Mahatma Gandhi shared much wisdom when he said,

It’s easy to get carried away by distractions or the unimportant. We’ve all done it. I suppose what I’m encouraging myself along with you is this, consider all that you have. Consider the surplus. Consider your skills. Consider your work, and how you spend your time.

In the comments below, share something with me. Tell me, do you have something in your upcoming plans to get you uncomfortably primed to lay hold of your purpose? Are you already involved in something that keeps your fires a burnin’ for purpose? Let us know so we can learn from you and celebrate with you!

To purposeful profits and more compassion.

Lessons from the Puerto Rican Santa

True Story. My husband and I are currently hanging out in Puerto Rico. We’ve just come off the small, yet peaceful island of Vieques. We chose to stay one night in San Juan to pick up a rental car.

We waltz out of the elevator to ask Jesus at the front desk to recommend some tasty vittles closeby. Los Pinos (The Pines) is the winner where we stumble upon Puerto Rican Santa. No, really. He was sitting next to us. He was wearing a black t-shirt and shorts, drinking java.

Now before you begin doubting the validity of my story, I have photos because I know you are thinking he’s not the type to hang out in Puerto Rico wearing flip flops.

Behold!

Lessons from a Puerto Rican Santa

And guess what? We invite Santa to join us for breakfast. He agrees and soon “Mrs. Claus” joins us from a short outside shopping detour. But it doesn’t stop there. We ask the waitress to allow us to pick up the tab. Seriously, how can one skip out on picking up the tab for such dignitaries.

Santa refused. He insisted on paying the bill. However, he invited us to join him for the day agreeing that we could actually buy lunch. Deal.

As an entrepreneur I’m always looking for ways to learn creatively.

The perfect opportunity presented itself. I was given the chance to see the world from Santa’s eyes and the eyes of children both big and small.

1) Santa’s 80/20 rule

Santa explained the rules of percentages. “Twenty percent have predetermined how they feel about me based on my appearance and how they feel about Santa.”

“Ten percent will completely dislike me. Ten percent will love me unconditionally. Eighty percent is where my opportunity lies to impact those who are undecided with a positive message. Focus on those who you can serve the most.”

2) Know your private mission behind the public mission

Me and Santa had some fairly deep philosophical discussions. He shared with me that Christmas wasn’t about him. “The purpose of Christmas is all about giving. It’s a celebration of the birth of Christ, Savior of the world, the greatest gift of all.” Santa gave me a sermon over lunch.

Santa’s clear that his public mission is to love on people, share happiness and promote the wonder and spirit of Christmas year round. Santa’s private mission is to empower both children and parents in creating healthier bonds by teaching good principles. Specifically, he wants to promote that there is goodness, hope and a bright future for all.

Puerto Rican Santa

3) Set an example to follow

Puerto Rican SantaĀ gets lots of business propositions. He’s invited to pose with the rich and famous, the poor and downtrodden, kids of all ages. He’s also invited to drink a rum and coke. To uphold his outstanding image, he bypasses things like alcohol and cigarettesā€“ it’s a message that must be congruent for children. When given the opportunity, I’m going to challenge Santa on his sugar intake. šŸ™‚

On side note, Santa’s not a Cookie Monster, he’s an aficionado of cream-filled donuts. I’d like to throw out a challenge. Let’s offer him more appropriate and healthy delicacies like apples, pomegranate, bananas, and pineapple, shall we?

4) Don’t let age become a cage

Throughout the day it was noticeableā€“ some bypassed a smile or free photo op with Santa even when encouraged by the man himself. After a while some embraced their inner child again and took a Santa selfie. They walked away with a smile on their face. Those who skipped out walked away shaking their head. It seemed they were caged in with what is and isn’t okay.

You can tell we big kids stood next to Puerto Rican SantaĀ for our golden opportunity.

Paige and Damiel Hunter with the Puerto Rican Santa

The big take away around age is what our society or our personal thoughts deem “appropriate” and “inappropriate”. Forget you’re too old for sky diving. You are too young to be wise.

Maybe it’s time to let loose a littleā€“ maybe it’s time to let more smiles out. Perhaps it time to let our conditioning be reconditioned so joy is shared with other fellow humans.

5) Let your signature phrase light the way to your mission

Santa’s well known for his “Ho Ho Ho! Merry Christmas!” It’s his happy go-lucky tag line. Bobby McFerrin’s tagline is “Don’t worry, be happy.”
Mother Teresa shared, “If you judge people, you have no time to love them.”

So what’s our signature “Ho, Ho, Ho?” I’m currently running with… this little light of mine, I’m gonna let it shine.

Do me a favor. In the comments below tell me what your signature phrase is or if you’ve had any great lessons you’ve learned this holiday season. We’d love to read about it.

In the meantime, have yourself a Merry little Christmas.